If you have recently been broken up with, there's a big
chance that you are facing one of the most challenging
times of your life. It's natural to go through lots of
varying emotions after a relationship ends and sometimes it
feels like you can't get over it. If this sounds familiar
to you, you've most likely asked the question "how can I
win my ex back"? We wanted to show you a strategy that you
can make use of to get them back.

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your love life into your own hands and go look for your own
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Where am I going with this? Well, there's still one thing
that you ladies must ask: Can women approach men? Many
ladies hesitate to break this taboo since this is almost as
good as being written on stone: that men should do the
contacting first. Thoughts like, "Gosh, what would he think
if I approach him first?" or "What kind of decent woman
would need to approach men first?" or yet another one, "I'm
sure that my Prince Charming would come to me, I should
just wait." If you still think this way, then sister, I
think that you may need to change the way you think.

The fact that today's cut-throat world is the same in
professional dating should be made clear. You cannot just
leave your love life simply to fate or chance or random
circumstance. There are really good opportunities in
millionaire dating, some of which you might miss out
because of being shy.

In a research conducted by a website, it showed that men do
not get discouraged when a girl contacts him first. It is
quite flattering for them to be contacted first, and they
will more than likely respond. Research says that women can
expect a whopping 70% chance of expecting a response from
men, whenever they make the first step of sending out that
first email. See? That's 70%! And to think that you
hesitated in sending the initial email!

Girls, you need to realize that competition is really hard,
and there are a lot of women out there who are looking for
a millionaire match too. Thinking about the sheer number of
people can overwhelm you, but don't just stand back and
make the first move. If I were a man, I would really
appreciate it when a woman would come forward first. Just
the same way that we get flattered with an email sent from
a guy. There is almost no more ego-issue with this because
this isn't unusual anymore.

Now, do not think that you are the only one struggling
through this. There are really lots of women who battle
through, don't be single forever and create your own luck
in your love life.

Domestic violence survivors often believe they are the only
victims in their divorce proceedings. And this belief adds
to their victimization. While it is true that they are
indeed victimized by the partner they are divorcing, their
partners may be victims of legal counsel.

Some successful, lucrative divorce law practices consist of
clients that are highly motivated to litigate. And an
angry, get even, gain control type of litigant is highly
motivated to do all that can be done to WIN, including
protracted litigation and/or the threat of litigation ad
nauseam.

The Abuser As Divorce Attorney's Victim

So this couple, abuser and his divorce lawyer, are ripe for
another kind of abusive relationship. We see them all the
time. You may not recognize them, because you're focused on
your soon-to-be ex-partner as being an empowered gunman
with a loaded pistol.

You see his* attorney as his loaded gun, and may not
realize that your soon-to-be ex-partner is a victim of the
gun he points at you. The gun is most likely fueling the
already existing venom within the perpetrator, more likely
than encouraging his client to settle with you.

Opposing counsel is supporting the "my way, no way"
mentality of the abuser and my way is often leaving you
homeless, penniless and childless. Let's face it, the
abuser needs to save face, show his rightness and maintain
control at all costs. And counsel will help him do just
that.

So when the abuser loses some steam, his attorney will keep
the fire going by reminding him of how horrible life will
be when you get such and such and he has to pay you
whatever amount. You get the picture?

What Breaks the Cycle of Legal Abuser Victimization?

Now, often this will be done until the abuser has been
turned upside down and every dime has been shaken out of
his pockets. Then, counsel will encourage closure on what
seemed to be endless litigation.

The importance of your seeing this is that once you do, it
will have an empowering effect on you. You will see that
you are entangled in an abuse dynamic that is larger than
you and the abusive partner you long to have out of your
life.

* My reference to the abuser in this scenario as being a
man only reflects the publicized trends and does not mean
to imply that men are not victimized by their female
partners.

Many women I meet in my role of psychologist/therapist are
feeling miserable due to the break up of a relationship.
Some tell me that they feel desperate because they just
don't see how things can improve in the future.

In these situations I always ask this question " if your
sister or good friend were in the position you find
yourself in now, how would you treat her?"

Invariably I get the same answer with slight variations. It
goes like this. "I would encourage her to eat properly and
get enough sleep. I would try to make her laugh and take
her out of herself. I would buy her little gifts and treats
to show her that she is special and loved"

My response is to say, "that's wonderful' thank you - you
have just told me what you need to be doing for yourself".
As women we are nurturers' we care for others and yet often
the last people we nurture are ourselves. Caring for
ourselves isn't selfish it's practical. Caring for
ourselves means that we have more to give to and share with
others.

Its time to start being your own big sister and taking care
of yourself. In a moment I'll explain a good way to start.
First I would like us to look briefly at your thought
process as you might be having thoughts that would stand in
the way of your success.

You may feel that lack of time or money prevents you from
bringing more pleasure into your life. The great news is it
doesn't have to take a great deal of either. Some pleasures
cost nothing, like taking a walk in the park on a sunny day
- or a lie in - or curling up on the sofa with a favourite
magazine or novel?

Most of the things we enjoy cost little and don't take up a
great deal of time. The important thing is of course to
take action on bringing more pleasure into your life not
just think about it.

I use an exercise along these lines when working with
groups of people. I ask each person to make a list of the
things and situations that bring them pleasure and to say
how often they indulge in them.

Participants are almost always surprised about how simple
and inexpensive it would be to bring these pleasures into
their lives or enjoy them more frequently. We all need and
deserve pleasure so it's important to start bringing more
of it into your life now.

Spend the next few days taking care of your needs and I
promise you will start to feel better whatever your
situation. But don't stop there. Let caring for yourself
become a beneficial way of life beneficial for you and all
those that you interact with.

Do you suspect that you have an unfaithful spouse?
Unfortunately, this happens more often than most people
think it does, especially these days with the internet
connecting people. There are many spouses that get online
everyday to cheat on their spouse. This is something that
no one wants to believe is happening to them, but if you
suspect that it is, than you need to know how to catch a
cheater to prove it.

You don't want to just ignore it and hope that your spouse
will stop because the truth is that they won't. Why should
you live with someone that doesn't respect you enough to be
faithful? You don't have to and that is why you need to
know that the best way to catch a spouse cheating on you is
to hire an infidelity investigator. No one deserves to be
cheated on and knowing the truth will help you get out of
this type of unhappy situation.

Did you know that you can find an infidelity investigator
to tell you whether your spouse has joined dating services,
personal ads and some will even tell you if they are
joining adult sites. Knowing this will definitely be useful
because it will prove that if they are not already
cheating, they at least have plans to because if they
didn't, then they would not be joining these types of sites
online.

You can do a search with any major search engine to help
you find an infidelity investigator that will help you
catch your cheating spouse. All they need from you to find
them online is their email address. If they have more than
one address, then you may want to mention this because they
may be able to check all of the addresses for you to find
out for sure. However, this is something you will have to
ask the investigator.

Now that you know the best way to catch a cheater, you can
start looking for an investigator to help you. Once you
find them, then it is just a matter of time before the
truth will be revealed about your unfaithful spouse. Don't
just ignore your suspicions, instead, do something about
them to find out what is really going on. Otherwise, you
are going to end up being more unhappy than you already
are. No one needs to live this way, so don't put up with it
if you suspect something because you can be sure that it
will only get worse.

For singles without children, dating is hard and stressful
as it is, but for single parents, it is that much more
difficult, since you must consider the welfare of your
child or children. This does not mean that you must live
your life alone until the kids become adults and move out.
It is possible to combine single parenting and dating.

The first thing about single parents and dating is the need
to be realistic. A single person with no kids has a bigger
playground to play in, so to speak. A playground to a
single parent is a lot smaller with a lot less toys to
choose from. A lot of people have made the choice of not
having any children of their own. Whatever their reasons,
it is a choice that is very personal. You must be extra
careful and selective as a single parent, because the
person you date may one day be a part of your child's or
children's life's. Therefore, if it is online dating where
you are looking for your future partner, when completing
your profile, answer truthfully and state the number of
children you have, this way the person viewing your profile
will have the option of wanting to meet you, or not.

Single parents usually look for other single parents to
date. Having children yourself should make you open to
dating others who also have children. This is also a part
of reality. While you may not have thought about expanding
your family, meeting someone with a child or two, might do
just that. As a single parent who is dating you need to be
open minded as to what is available out there. That does
not mean you need to settle for someone under your
expectations, or standards.

Being a single parent can be difficult depending on the age
of your child or children. When you have small children who
may need babysitting services when you go out, your going
out times may turn out to be few and far between. Having
children usually turns you neglectful of your personal
needs and soon you may start feeling alone and isolated.
You now don't know where to begin when you are ready to
date. As a single parent you may often have serious doubts
as to whether someone will wish to date you when they learn
you have a child or children.

Although the home situation is very important, a person who
will date a single parent needs to focus on the person they
are dating rather than on the home situation. The domestic
situation is, of course, important, but it is not who that
person is.

Many unhappy marriages can be put back on track, but you
have to be honest with yourself. Answer this question: do
you take your fair share of responsibility in your marriage
(or partnership) , and do you always do your best to avoid
arguments? The honest answer, for many of us, is probably
no. If you answered yes, you are probably deluding
yourself! An unhappy marriage, or partnership, is often the
outcome of such delusion.

But, if we can stop playing the 'blame' game, and do
something about controlling the arguments we get ourselves
into, it can result in positive change. When it comes to
making improvements in your personal relationship you know
there are no 'magic-bullets that can come up with 'magical
answers'; it takes an open mind - and some action - to help
bring back the happiness to your relationship.

To start you moving in the right direction there are two
things that should help you focus your mind on making the
improvements you seek. These are:

1 - Taking responsibility for your own actions, and, 2 -
How to deal with arguments, and how to use them as an
opportunity for positive change. Start the process by
being frank and honest about your own attitudes to both of
these issues and you will find some practical ways that
should help you get your relationship running smoothly
again.

So, let's start with what your attitude should be towards
taking some responsibility in your marriage or partnership.
Too often we transfer all of the blame for our unhappiness
onto our partner. It is quite possible that what may be
going wrong in your relationship is totally their fault.
But why not turn this thought around. Consider that you
could be part of the problem too. Take some responsibility
and acknowledge the fact that, if things aren't totally
rosy for you, it is as much your 'problem' as it is theirs.

You will start to to move forward, and not backward or
sideways, by taking responsibility! Don't put all the onus
of responsibility onto your partner. Be positive, and try
to be fair. Whatever you do, don't shirk your
responsibilities and take time to think your situation
through properly. Take some time to analyze what it is you
are doing (or not doing!) that might be causing the
problem. Try to be honest with yourself and you may put
your finger on the problems that are the most serious for
you, and then you will be able to do something about them.

Think of it this way. How many times, when something goes
wrong, do you say: "Well, that's not my problem, it's the
responsibility of...". Of course you may be right and it
really isn't your fault that things are the way they are
currently. But, ask yourself, "If I carry on blaming
him/her and making him/her take all the responsibility?
"will that help me to move in the direction of 'solving' the problem?"

The answer is almost certainly... probably not! So, don't
push all the 'responsibility' onto your spouse or partner.
You have to show him, or her, that you're prepared to take
your fair share of the blame for things not being as you
want them to be.

Stephen Covey, in his book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective
Families, says that responsibility is simply the " ability
to choose our response. Remember, we do not have to respond
to stimuli and triggers the same way we have always done in
the past. We do have a choice. It may involve us practicing
a real commitment on our part to letting go of 'old
patterns of behavior'. So, try something new. Relationships
are often much better served if the end result is not to be
an argument.

At this point, rather than cover the second major issue
that causes serious problems in most relationships - the
dreaded argument - I will be covering this in my next
article. There are some very effective 'tools' to stop the
arguments from getting out of hand, so you don't end up
getting uptight and angry.

For now I will leave you to give serious thought to working
on taking your share of the responsibility in your
relationship, so you don't have to endure an unhappy
marriage for much longer! The ball is now in your court...
so be positive and try not to be stubborn! Until next time
take Steven Covey's advice and choose your responses
carefully when communicating with your spouse, or partner.
All it takes is a little practice to change those old
habits that probably aren't doing either of you any good!
Until next time... bye for now!

Just think your wedding in Chester may turn out to be the
most important and special day of your entire life. You
want it be a day of exceptional beauty with memories to
take with you and share forever with your partner.

A beautiful venue will make the Chester wedding
photographer' s job much easier and the result will be some
spectacular pictures of your day.

Your decision on which Chester wedding venue to choose will
reflect on your everlasting memories of your perfect day.
Finding the perfect wedding venue in Chester may help you
on your way to the best start for your new marriage so take
your time to choose. It is a good idea to make sure that
the wedding venue that you select can accommodate all your
needs so that you can relax and enjoy the biggest
celebration. Attending a Chester Wedding Show is a good use
of your time and will help with your choices.

Some thought should be taken as to where you will have your
Chester wedding venue - will the city centre be your first
choice or will you take advantage of the stunning Cheshire
countryside? How far will your wedding guests have to
travel? Will your chosen venue be able to provide somewhere
for your guests to park and stay overnight?

Chester has a fantastic and romantic history and this can
bring people from further away to experience their special
day in a Chester wedding venue.

Inviting your friends and family to the city of Chester is
brilliant because it is not just your Chester wedding and
the excellent venue you have chosen that they will
experience. There is plenty to entertain your guests
throughout Chester and Cheshire.

Once you have reached the all important conclusion about
which Chester wedding venue will host your special day a
big chunk of your wedding planning will be arranged. Many
wedding venues in Chester offer a complete package for your
special day so you can be rest assured that nearly all the
organising will be don for you.

Reading reviews, looking through photographs and visiting
the hotels is a great idea before you book.

The Directory of Chester brings you just a few of the many
Chester Wedding Venues in its listings:

De Vere Carden Park Hotel, Chester Grosvenor Hotel and Spa,
Crabwall Manor Hotel, Mollington Banastre Hotel and Spa,
Queen Hotel, Chester Ramada Hotel, Rowton Hall Country
House Hotel

Pros and Cons of online dating adverts fill our inbox, ads
appear on a large percentage of the websites we visit, and
they even, on occasion, show up on our television screens.
Because of the percentage of people turning to the Internet
for a date, it is important to keep in mind the pros and
cons to online dating.

PROS: One of the biggest advantages to online dating, is
the vast number of people who have signed up on dating
websites looking for their one and only. This allows you to
meet more people who are interested in dating, quickly or
not. Online dating websites give you more choices in who
you meet, because you are given the opportunity to browse
through countless of online profiles with or without
pictures (you can always request a picture/s) before
deciding who you would like to start communicating with.
You can also abstain from communicating with someone if you
so choose, while still remaining anonymous.

The opportunity is much higher for you to get to know the
person you are interested in, because their profile gives
you an idea of the person's personality, interests, likes,
dislikes, ethnicity, religious background and so on before
you get to meet them in person. Email and instant messaging
are also popular methods for people to communicate with
each other. The cell phone is also practical, (do not
recommend giving your home number while in the first stages
of getting acquainted).

Another reason why online dating is so popular is because
it eliminates the fear of the rejection factor as well as
the social awkwardness that one might feel when meeting
someone new, because initial interaction is anonymous
throughout most online dating websites.

CONS: There are still people who will join dating sites
just to look at profiles, even if they are not interested
in dating. So you may be interested in his/her profile but
he/she won't be interested in yours. The numbers of women
who have joined the online websites far outnumber the
number of men. Good for the men who have joined.

The number of online dating users who misrepresent
themselves is quite high. The anonymity of such sites gives
them this opportunity. Most often it is about their
appearance, age, economic status, and even gender. Single
does not always mean what it should. Some people claim to
be single when in fact they are still married or in the
process of a divorce.

Online scams are very prevalent on the Internet and it is
seeping onto the online dating websites. Users will fill
out a profile in order to collect addresses and in turn try
and scam them out of money. The only thing you can do is to
protect yourself first. That old saying, "if it sounds too
good to be true it probably is", carries over into online
dating. Be cautious of who you meet and where; and always
let a friend or family member know where you will be. While
there are many wonderful success stories of couples who
have met online, there are just as many disappointing
stories of first meetings that never turned into second
ones.

Whether you have never been kissed before, have been told
truthfully that your kissing is below average or you simply
feel as though your kissing skills could use a little work,
you'll discover that there are a lot of tips on kissing out
there for you.

Kissing is a beautiful and intimate activity where two
people can get to know each other in an intimate way and
when you want to make sure that you are pleasing your
partner and making a good impression, there are a number of
things that you should keep in mind.

The first thing that you should bear in mind is that it
always takes two to kiss, or to kiss well, as the case may
be. Be receptive to your partner and the level of closeness
that they are interested in.

Allow some time to read their body language and to see how
open they are. Some people will make kissing into a skill
where their whole bodies are engaged, while other people
prefer kissing to be a pure meeting of lips.

The more you know what they are after, the better you are
going to be when it comes to fulfilling their needs and
improving your kissing skills.

Keep in mind that not every person kisses the same way. The
way that you kiss one person is going to be significantly
different from the way that you kiss someone else.

Among the most important tips on kissing is the fact that
you need to re-learn kissing with every new person you
kiss. Don't worry, studying how to kiss each other is a lot
of fun.

Once again, you can never take it too slowly; remember that
there is no race and that the more time you spend figuring
out kissing techniques with someone that you care about,
the more likely it is that you'll be invited back for more

When experimenting with kissing, a lot of people think
about what they should do with their tongues. The truth of
the matter is that the tongue is less important to a good
kiss than you might think, as a matter of fact, some people
considering using their tongue during a kiss to be rushing
things; just go with the flow, and introduce your tongue
gently, and wait for their response

Some people adore kissing with tongues (also known as
French kissing) while other people find it uncomfortable,
embarrassing or even a little invasive.

Take some time and make sure that you consider what your
choices might be when it comes to learning what you need to
do with your lips and your tongue.