Born to Win
You were born to win. Your creator has given you everything
you need to be happy and successful. You can change your
life. You can change from being average or above-average to
a winner. You can achieve ultimate happiness and success .

A total winner enjoys success with work and love. A total
winner is someone who is having a great time achieving
vocational goals and personal and family goals. A total
winner achieves ultimate happiness and success. Your
Internal Messages Today's eZine will help you understand
what may be preventing you from being a total winner.

Do you remember your parents and other important people
saying personal things about you? I vividly recall my
beloved aunt Julie looking straight at me with her vivid
blue eyes and saying, "You can be anything you want." I
know that has been a strong positive influence throughout
my life.

I also remember my stepfather telling me many times, "Don't
get too big for your britches." This also has influenced my
life, but in a negative way. Negative messages like this
are called injunctions.

Some injunctions are less direct. Families may say
something like, "Our family has always been members of the
working poor," "Women belong in the home," or "Business
people are just money grabbers."

You also tend to treat yourself like your parents treated
you. If they were kind, encouraging and supportive, even
when you made mistakes, you will treat yourself the same
way and feel good about yourself. On the other hand, if
your parents were harsh, critical and demeaning, you will
tend to do the same thing to yourself and feel badly about
yourself.

Feeling badly about yourself hurts your self-esteem. In my
previous newsletters, I explained how high self-esteem
correlates with high achievement.

Do you feel like you are still being influenced by negative
messages from your family? Your negative messages create
self-defeating thinking and beliefs. They will stand in
your way of achieving ultimate happiness and success. To
overcome their influence, you first have to become aware of
them and replace them with positive messages. This is not
an easy task without the help of others -- a professional
trained in this area.

Freeing yourself from the influence of negative messages is
essential if you want to have a positive self concept that
empowers you to be a winner.

Summary
You were born to win, but negative messages from parental
figures can block you from your birthright&# 8212;ultimate
happiness and success. You need to become aware of these
messages and take steps to replace them with positive
messages.

About the Author:

Stan Mann, C.P.C. supports business owners, top executives
and commission salespeople to substantially grow their
business and have a balanced life. He is a Certified
Professional Coach. For additional articles and resources
please visit http://www.stanmann.com