We all need people around us who see the beauty of our
potential and believe in our capability. We need people who
understand that the ultimate purpose of life is to flourish
and fully display our unique magnificence. We need to see
our highest self reflected in the eyes of someone who has
faith in us. Julia Cameron calls such people "believing
mirrors." While it is tremendously encouraging and
validating to have our self reflected in a believing
mirror, it is equally gratifying to be that mirror for
others. This is the beautiful, synchronistic relationship
we hope to achieve as parents, grandparents, teachers,
mentors, personal coaches, spouses, muses, or friends. How
do we invite more believing mirrors into our lives and how
do we become such a clear reflection for others? Here are
some of the important qualities of a believing mirror?

1. Believing mirrors are optimists who always see the cup
as half full. Because they truly believe in the ultimate
goodness of life and your ability to reach your highest
potential, there are no mistakes or failures, only lessons
and opportunities for growth. They know for a fact that
everything happens for a reason, and one's purpose is only
revealed by embracing the journey with all its twists and
turns.

2. Believing mirrors are truth tellers. They reflect the
reality of who you are, but always from the perspective of
who you are yet to become. I love the picture of the little
tabby cat looking into a mirror and seeing a full grown
lion reflected back. Every kitten has the partial DNA of a
lion. A truthful mirror will reflect both the heart of the
lion and the potential for encasing that within the body of
a kitten. The mirror's honesty is always framed with
respect and polished with a generous heart.

3. Believing mirrors are clear and self- effacing. They do
not muddle the picture with their own beliefs and
ambitions. They do not project their needs and values upon
you. Believing mirrors can step out of the way and provide
the space and time for you to be center stage. They allow
you to be both the director and the actor of the scene;
plus they let you have as many rehersals as you need.

4. Believing mirrors only reflect the present moment. Where
you stand now is what you see. The past is not in the
picture: the future is for you to forge. There is no
'should of,' could of,' 'would of,' only what is. Standing
before the mirror allows you to be fully in the present,
which is after all the starting point for every next step.

5. Believing mirrors allow you to see the best of you. They
reflect your strengths and capabilities, your gifts and
talents, your divine essence and ultimate potential. They
see through the make-up and blemishes and bear witness to
your core. They reflect your true beauty!

To stand before a believing mirror is energizing,
motivating, empowering, and validating. To be a believing
mirror is fulfilling, satisfying, and inspiring. Together
you experience the intuitive dance of a heartfelt
connection. Often in life, you need to become what you
seek. So practice being a believing mirror to the important
people in your life and ask others to play that role for
you. Purposefully, invite the grace and wisdom of
believing mirrors into your life.

About the Author:

Karin Marcus, Certified Life Coach / Retreat Leader
"Let the beauty of what you love, be what you do" Rumi
Karin@Steppingoutcoaching.com 610-667-5247
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